Impatient

I am growing impatient.
I am not patient and I know this about myself.
I am a doer.
When I want something I make it happen
I trust in my agency, but I thought I would be in contact with a mom by now. I am not even to the average time with the agency, but it is hard.
All it takes is one mom, the right mom.
I am so ready to be a mom.
I have written a few blogs but I don't publish them because I don't want to bring anyone down.  I know it is hard to hear, hard stuff to talk about.
I will keep putting in the universe to get a baby, I will keep asking for prayers. I will keep telling my story.
I still feel like I grieve the loss of having a baby, I know that once I get my baby the emptiness in my heart will be replaced by love.
 In December I  had my phone call, my profile had gone out to 30 moms, and been viewed nearly 8,000 times online
I know I had shared this.

I just wanted to give an update, I am still here. I am still waiting. Some days are easier than others and some days are hard. I am ready to be a mom.  On Thanksgiving Jess and Kate came with our family, I took some really sweet pictures of Maya, Will and Lucy with Kate. When I got home, I looked at these pictures and started sobbing. I want them to be cuddling with my baby.
Thank you everyone who asks me questions, prays for me and supports me.

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